How to surrender to the flow and ignite your inner voice

Have you ever wondered why it’s so difficult to anchor your thoughts for long enough to turn them into words that connect with your reader? In this blog I’m sharing my recent experiences along with some tips to help you surrender to the flow of your intuition and ignite your inner voice, so that you finally write the book, create the online course or finish the sales page!

Do you ever get a flash of inspiration – the kind that swirls inside your head giving you a complete mental image of something you feel drawn to create instantly?

You know instinctively that all the information is there. The words, the images, the sounds, the smells, the feelings. And yet the minute you pick up your pen and paper to write it all down, it begins to float away…. just like dreams, smoke and clouds.

One minute your thoughts are as vivid as they can possibly be, and the next they’re transforming, swirling, disappearing.

This happens to me all the time.

My Gemini mind is like mercury – fast, fluid and ever changing. So my ability to hold onto those thoughts and ideas and channel them directly into a container every time is almost impossible.

Of course, not every idea or thought that ever pops into our minds needs to be acted upon. Far from it in fact.

But every now and then you’ll get that one thought that leaves you fizzing in every cell in your body. And just like meeting your soulmate, you know it’s the one.

So, what can you do to harness your effervescent energy and insatiable ideas once they jump into your mind with more bounce than Tigger?

Here’s what I’ve learnt over the past few months that might help you to feel more connected, aligned and ready to anchor those thoughts into tangible words so you can create the impact and ripple effect you desire.

First, feeling frustrated when you can’t get the words out onto paper isn’t helping. You need to take a step back and look at the situation from a new perspective.

There’s probably a lot going on in your life and in your head (if you’re anything like me!), so step one is to SURRENDER.

Allow yourself to fully let go of all the plates you’re spinning.

Some might smash and fall, but that’s ok.

They’re probably plates you didn’t need anyway.

Remember that you are a human being – not a human doing.

You are enough simply by showing up in the world as the fullest expression of your self.

Allowing yourself to let go of the noise around you is the next step in being able to create the space and calm you need to birth your creations into the world.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re the kind of person who needs to schedule in ‘quiet time for connection’ into your daily diary or whether you’re (like me) someone who just needs a few minutes’ space to breathe and pull an oracle card to feel centred and realigned.

Either way, creating stillness, calm and space around you, and within you, is an essential part of this process.

And I’ll be honest, as a classic multi-tasker with at least 30 tabs open in three different browsers at any one time (sorry Virgo readers, I know how much this pains you!), truly taking the time to create real stillness and space is something I jump in and out of way too fast. Which is probably why it’s taken me a longggggg time to get here!

But equally, those of us who have been on the most challenging of journeys have so much to share. If you’ve been struggling for years too, know that all of your experiences have shaped and moulded you into the beautiful person you are today – filled with so much to share with the world.

Once you’ve begun to create stillness and space, you’ll find it easier to allow those thoughts and ideas to flow through you and onto paper (or straight into your computer).

When it comes to writing, every writing coach will tell you that you need a daily writing practice.

And while committing to a daily practice will definitely help with focus and productivity, there’s also another part to the picture that’s really important…

Connection. Alignment. Remembering.

In my Write Effortless Copy Workbook I take the reader on a journey through the things that resonate most with them: what lights them up, what makes them feel energised, their talents, gifts and unique skills, their values, the people who inspire them, and so much more.

It’s a great exercise to repeat again and again a couple of times each year as it enables you to anchor in to what’s truly important in your world. This helps you to build on the connection you have with your inner self: your intuition, your inner voice, your gut instinct, your soul.

Living each day in alignment with these connections to your soul brings in its own kind of lightness, serenity and focus. Suddenly, all the things you didn’t think you’d have time to do seem possible after all. And doing those things creates a new buzz of energy that’s motivating and inspiring in itself.

The notion of remembering ties into the ancient wisdom that lies within many of us, particularly those who resonate with terms such as lightworker, Starseed, healer, psychic and empath. But it’s not all about far away galaxies or ancient lands of Lemuria or Atlantis, there’s also the wisdom we possessed as children; the innocence, playfulness and curiosity we were naturally gifted before adulting, pain and trauma got in the way.

Remembering is about tapping back into the true you inside; whether that’s your inner child, your early life experiences or a deep cellular memory of long-forgotten worlds.

Once you’re feeling aligned, sitting in the stillness, with mental space freeing up channels for connection and remembering, then those ideas and thoughts that flash into your mind in a nano-second will have a far greater chance of being released onto paper and out into the world where they can inspire, support and transform other people’s lives.

Never underestimate the power that lies within you.

You are capable of creating magical things without ever needing a schedule or a planner! All you need is what already exists inside.

The power of community, interaction and support from others will also play a vital role in your evolution and growth.

So with that in mind, I thought that 1 October was the perfect moment to build on the momentum of this blog, and the energy many of us in the northern hemisphere are feeling as we tip into autumn. The nights are drawing in, the leaves are turning golden and the desire to retreat inwards feels stronger than ever.

For the month of October I’m committing to a more conscious practice of connection, alignment, remembering, stillness, space and surrender.

And I’d love to share this journey with you in a way that inspires you to peel back your own layers and share more of your brilliant sparkle with the world.

While I can’t commit to writing a blog a day, I am going to be sharing something across Instagram and Facebook (maybe with a splattering of Twitter and LinkedIn thrown in for good measure) EVERY day throughout October.

And I’d LOVE you to join me.

(Click any of the links above, follow me and ensure notifications are switched on.)

I’ll be sharing ways to connect, align, surrender, create space and tap into our ancient wisdom. I’ll also be sharing bits of my own writing and encouraging you to do the same. 

Here’s to using the things we learn about ourselves this month to finally bring our incredible dreams and fantastic ideas into reality so that together we raise the vibration of the planet.

Are you with me?

Lorraine xx

Busyness v. Stillness

Once upon a time I was a mother of two little children, rushing around from one activity to the next, surrounded by a sea of plastic toys and answering hundreds of random questions every day.

I was always busy, always thinking, always moving. I never stopped. A ‘mummy drink’ of Bacardi and coke and a generous portion of reality TV simply numbed the senses but didn’t really allow me to switch off.

I got irritated really easily, kicked toys, drove too fast and ate a lot of chocolate.

My body, mind and soul were constantly swept up in a tornado of ‘doing’ and ‘stuff’.

Fast forward a few years and in contrast to busyness, I now enjoy stillness.

The change did not happen overnight. It’s been a long process of aligning to my inner truths and core values; a journey of learning to understand and love the real me on the inside.

Because, the truth is this…

Sometimes we just get swept up with life. The boyfriend, the house, the wedding, the baby, the nursery, the toys, the school, the activities, the jobs, the money, the food, the shopping, the socialising. The endless accumulation of stuff to do and stuff to own. We find ourselves constantly irritated by minor things and filling the void with food, alcohol, caffeine, sugar or substances. (Because stuff does not equal contentment.)

I realised I had enough stuff in my life. In fact, I had too much. All this stuff was drowning my spirit and making me stressed and overwhelmed.

There wasn’t one point at which I suddenly said ‘that’s enough!’, it was a gradual process; a mirror of the process it took to get there. The layers piled on and now they needed peeling off again.

When I moved from a bungalow in 2013 I had ten years of stuff in the loft to clear out. Every painting and drawing the girls had ever made, every pair of shoes they’d ever worn, every outfit, every toy, every blanket, every photo … plus there were boxes of mine and my ex-husband’s that we’d not looked at since the late 90s! Emptying the loft took longer than emptying the actual main living space. (Although, carrying boxes down a ladder every day for three weeks is great for your legs and bum! #silverlinings)

In the last five years what’s changed the most is the realisation that I need stillness, calm, peace and time to reflect every day. Not just once a week for an hour between other activities, I need it EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

When I’m out with friends, networking or at an event, I love being with people. I love listening to their stories and finding out what lights them up and fuels their creative passion. When I’m with my children I love to listen to their stories of school, work, social media and friendships and understand what makes them tick as they grow into amazing young adults. And when I’m by myself I love to just BE. To look up at the clouds and watch the trees swaying in the wind, to spend quiet time with a purring cat on my lap or watching my bunnies wash their faces or eat daisies – stem first (it’s the cutest thing!).

As a small business owner I’ve tried making schedules and timetables and plans but I’ve realised that they don’t work for me because they don’t allow for time to just be. This precious time (and precious moments with children, partners and pets or in nature) can’t be allocated within a spreadsheet. Sometimes you have to seize the moment or the opportunity when it presents itself. If you’re trying to stick to a schedule then you’ll always feel like you failed, even if you actually took time off to do something that made you feel great.

So, what really changed over the last five to ten years? How did I get from overwhelmed, rushing, stressed out mummy to calm, serene business owner?

  • I switched my mindset. I read The Gratitude Diaries, Eat Pray Love, Big Magic and countless other books that helped me to live life from a place of gratitude, not scarcity. I wrote daily gratitude lists and made more time to enjoy the simple things in life. 
  • I cut drama and negativity out of my life. I stopped watching the news, daytime TV, reading newspapers and reading the negative comments across social media. I actually sold my TV too! Now I watch just the documentaries, movies or programmes that I choose, online, at my preferred time.
  • I began decluttering. I realised that simply tidying the stuff from one room to another or rearranging it into yet more plastic storage boxes simply wasn’t working! The stagnant energy was still sitting there. Slowly, I’ve reduced our possessions to perhaps a tenth of what we had back in 2013. I’m working on creating a capsule wardrobe where I love everything in it and every item fits me well and makes me feel great. This stops that ‘I have nothing to wear’ scenario and reduces the stress of washing mountains or packing for holidays.
  • I stopped trying to make everything fit and just tuned in to ME. I realised that I was happiest when I wasn’t constantly trying to be something that I wasn’t. I shared more of the real me online which attracted more of my ‘tribe’. Now with an amazing, extended group of like-minded people all around me, I feel supported, respected and loved. And the best part is that I get to make others feel good too! #connectionsandcommunity
  • I switched back to a mainly vegetarian diet somewhere around 2012 … and then tried four months as a raw vegan before ending up at a 95% plant-based diet that suited me and my family really well. In the last year I’ve committed to a completely plant-based lifestyle and the last pieces all fell into place. Love, compassion, peace, kindness, stillness, nature, lunar cycles and Mother Earth – it all fits together like a beautiful hand made wooden puzzle.
  • Plus (and you may not like these!), I stopped drinking diet coke, rarely drink alcohol and never drink black tea or coffee. Before switching to a plant-based diet I’d also stopped eating over-processed milk chocolate bars (like the ones in purple wrappers) and switched to dairy-free dark chocolate instead. So, basically, cut the caffeine, sugar and alcohol and you’ll feel much less stressed! Eating a healthy, vegetable and fruit rich diet with primarily home cooked foods will support and nourish your body.

So that’s me, now it’s over to you…

  • What can you do today to bring more stillness, calm and joy into your life?
  • What can you do today to reduce the amount of stress and overwhelm you feel? Where do you need to be honest with yourself? What difficult conversations do you need to have? Where do you need support?
  • What can you do today to connect with people that will lift you up, support your goals and make you feel great? How can you make other people feel loved, respected and heard?

 

Lorraine xx