Three young women in their early twenties with tiny sparkly black dresses, high heels and long lashes caked in mascara stand over the cloakroom sinks, reapplying their baby pink lip gloss in the mirror for at least the tenth time, scanning each other’s outward appearance for any sign of weakness to be exploited.
Her bum’s bigger than mine, I bet she doesn’t work out. My boobs look better than hers. Her hair is so long, she must have extensions. I’m gonna get that cute guy with the bright blue eyes before she does; he won’t fancy her anyway.
And so it continues, every Friday and Saturday night in bars and nightclubs around the country. Young women competing for men’s attention and tearing each other down in the process.
I remember those years. They were exhausting! No matter how much you noticed other women’s supposed flaws, you still never felt quite slim enough, pretty enough, sexy enough or on-trend-enough.
The whole thing was D R A I N I N G.
And we were totally missing the best part of our lives.
Youth. Natural beauty. Freedom.
Thankfully, there comes a time in most women’s lives when wisdom overtakes competition.
We begin to realise that lifting each other up is a far more pleasurable and peaceful way to live.
American actress Amy Adams once told Vanity Fair that she has no interest in competing with her female peers, and says: “I get excited for people when I know I should be competitive. I’d say in an audition, ‘I don’t think I’m right for this, but you know who you should get?’”
It’s this kind of support, trust and feminine energy that enables us all to feel more empowered and, ultimately, to achieve our individual goals.
Attending Rebecca Campbell’s Rise Sister Rise event in October 2016 changed the direction of my life and showed me the ONE thing I’d been searching for since my late teens…
Sisterhood.
That feeling of knowing other women have your back.
That other women can support you in your personal and business life.
That other women can pick up on subtle, intuitive signs and guide you on your journey of personal growth and development.
That other women will lift you up when you’re feeling down.
That other women have gifts similar to yours, yet we’re all unique. Embracing our differences and similarities is a beautiful thing.
And, of course, sisterhood is not a one way street. The more you support, uplift and empower other women, the better you feel.
Elevating other women benefits everyone.
If you’ve jumped from the real world into the online entrepreneurial space and suddenly feel like you’re back in your teens or twenties, competing to be the brightest star around, then I feel your pain. In a sea of digitally enhanced images and unfathomable job titles, it’s easy to feel lost, uneasy and not good enough.
But before you run off back to shore and wrap yourself in your favourite cosy towel, I invite you to take a deep breath, close your eyes and remember …
Remember why you’re here.
Remember what you want to do.
Remember who you want to serve.
You are a woman. Powerful and strong. Your innate feminine wisdom, gut instinct and intuition is the key to unlocking your present and your future. When you’re tuned in to who you really are at a deep level, that’s when life feels aligned and everything flows with ease. You don’t feel stuck any more. You can aim high because you know you have the power to achieve your greatest dreams.
And with the support of your sisters around the world, this will truly be a magical journey (unicorns optional!).
Lorraine xx
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