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Post-viral quantum leaps

Have you ever had an illness or injury that took you away from your normal life for a few weeks? And if so, did you feel a surge in energy, clarity and productivity at some point during your recovery? For the benefits of this blog, after my recent experience with Covid, I’m calling this phenomenon a post-viral quantum leap.

I had a similar experience during my healing process from a broken ankle back in the autumn of 2019, which you can read here.

As I’m sitting here today (December 2021) after a calm, productive and nourishing ‘CEO day’, I can feel a rush of endorphins – happy hormones – flooding my body as I take action, tune into my desires and values and start planning for 2022.

But first, let’s jump back in time to just over two weeks ago… 

I was feeling fulfilled in my work, happy and excited about Christmas approaching and to seeing my daughter again when she returned home from living abroad for the past 3 months.

In fact, I was so bubbly and excitable that I organised a small dinner party with three friends who I hadn’t seen properly for years (apart from the occasional Waitrose or garden centre chance meeting!). I spent the day cleaning the house, cooking a delicious plant-based curry and getting the lounge all cosy and filled with candles and fresh flowers.

It was a lovely evening and I went to bed feeling beautifully nourished, emotionally and physically. 

By Monday morning, (three days later), I had started to feel achey and cold. I have anaemia so feeling cold isn’t anything unusual for me, but this was different. The kind of cold that makes your bones shiver and hurts your skin when you touch a cold surface. Like sitting on the toilet seat or picking up a metal spoon. By mid-afternoon I was feeling positively feverish and was curled up on the sofa shivering in at least two blankets when my youngest daughter came home from work.

The next two days were a bit of a blur. My temperature soared to 102 degrees multiple times and all I can really remember is either sleeping or making still lemonade with fresh lemons at random times of the day or night! Even in my sickness I knew that the vitamin C was essential to my healing – plus nothing else tasted good! (Except the ONE solitary throat pastille I found at 4am in the kitchen junk drawer!)

Even with a raging fever, I remember having a lightbulb moment which I was clever enough to record in my phone notes!

I realised that the fever was a powerful lesson in letting go of control.

I knew that I couldn’t make myself feel better, so I simply had to let go of trying to create a different outcome.

It was time to sink into the pain and allow the waves of fever to wash over me.

This is a great reminder to all of us, in any challenging situation, not just an illness or injury …

You can’t control what happens to you, but you CAN control how you react to it.

When I tested positive for Covid on Wednesday morning (first on a home lateral flow test and later on a PCR test), it was no surprise. But while many people would be scared or upset by that diagnosis, I was actually very happy!

Why? Because ‘recovery from Covid illness’ gives you a free passport to travel to certain countries without vaccination. Yay to travel in spring 2022!!!

And secondly, and more importantly, a positive test means that my body is naturally creating antibodies to this virus – antibodies that will protect my health and boost my immunity for the long term. As I plan on reaching at least my 100th birthday, I’m very happy about this!

In my mind, I’d already decided Covid wasn’t going to make me really sick.

Apart from right at the very start of the pandemic outbreak in March 2019 when we had no idea what was happening, I’ve been pretty calm and unstressed about the whole thing. Of course, it’s disrupted my life in many ways, the same as it has for everyone.

And so, when I tested positive, I’d made up my mind that after 48 hours of fever, I’d be back to normal pretty quickly with just mild ‘cold like’ symptoms. Never underestimate the power of the mind!

And then I got a funny prickly sensation in my chest…

It was day 4 of symptoms and every time I leant forward I had a really strange prickly sensation in the top of my chest on the left, just below my collar bone and behind my ribs. Fear kicked in. Was Covid damaging my lungs?

As the sensation became more frequent, I got scared. I coughed up a lovely ball of phlegm (sorry!) and made the mistake of hitting Google! I made a GP appointment for the next week just in case. I found the emergency number for the Covid team.  I really managed to work myself up into a little ball of fear and suddenly worried that I had pneumonia and was going to be reallllllly sick!

All the worries and concerns spun around my mind for a few hours. What would my daughters do without me if the worst happened? How long would they be able to stay in this rented house? Would they have to give up the bunnies or the cat? All unwarranted concerns that came from a combination of fever and a fear of the unknown.

Thankfully, the next day the sensation had disappeared, and I hadn’t coughed up anything else! Phew!

Relief washed over me. “I’m still alive!”

Gratitude kicked in.

And a renewed sense of warrior spirit to get myself back to good health.

As my appetite returned a little and my Amazon supplement orders landed on the doorstep, I felt a renewed sense of vitality. I’ve always been passionate about personal health since I was a teenager, and even more so since first taking qualifications in fitness and nutrition at 23. I wasn’t eating much, but I made sure that every meal had a huge handful of lettuce or rocket or cooked broccoli. I made raw soups, more still lemonade, nutrient dense smoothies and ate simple,  home-cooked meals. And I drank so much water!

As one week turned to two (and I developed a cough and a blocked nose), I had to learn another important lesson:

Surrender.

I had to let go of trying to do everything. Of wanting to be in control. Of getting back to my copywriting work quickly. Of being fit and healthy again really fast.

I had to accept I was human.

A pretty awesome, intuitive human, but human nonetheless! #alwayskeepasenseofhumour

I realised that I had to let go of my attachment to being ‘perfect’ when it comes to health. I had to release the belief that I was a failure if I didn’t get well in a matter of days.

And the more I stopped and thought about this, the more I saw the parallels with running my own business. You might resonate with this too…

All too often we take a small action step and then get frustrated when positive results don’t come instantly. As the pattern repeats over and over again, we subconsciously start believing that we’re not good enough. That ‘success’ only happens to other people. That somehow we’re flawed, imperfect, a failure.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

We’re all divine souls having a human experience – and our individual challenges, highs and lows are what make this experience so magical. Even when it feels like life is falling apart. In fact, especially when life feels that way!

Whenever we go through struggles – individually and collectively – we have the opportunity to learn from those experiences and to emerge the other side with heightened awareness, increased resilience and a renewed sense of energy, enthusiasm and vitality.

Which brings me back to those post-viral quantum leaps…

Having an illness that knocked me off track actually blessed me with so many opportunities for growth and energetic healing.

It helped me to see that while some areas of my life felt ‘happy and fulfilling’, there’s actually so much more that I desire to achieve.

Covid kicked me out of my comfort zone, made me face my humanness and catapulted me into a whole new timeline.

I feel blessed with a whole new vision for the future and the clarity and focus to make it happen.

I’m going into December feeling supported…

While I was resting, I took some action steps that will support me to move into 2022 on track to achieve my goals. I ordered a beautiful ‘Mind and Money’ planner, signed up to a 2022 online planning retreat and started making appointments to meet up in person with some of my motivational, inspiring biz besties and dearest friends in January.

But I had to hit another ‘low’ first…

I watched a lot of movies, YouTube videos and house design programmes!

Hours and hours screen time.

And it didn’t take long for me to get stuck in that unproductive, low-vibe cycle where the more screen time you have, the more bored and unproductive you become!

I could literally feel my creativity slipping away.

And just as the sensation in my chest had brought up all kinds of health fears, this negative energy from too much ‘consuming’ brought up all the business and money fears.

What if I don’t get my creativity back? What if I never feel like writing again? What if I don’t get any new clients next month? What if I don’t get my course created and launched? What if, what if, what if?!

As I wrote in an Instagram post recently, thankfully, I know what my body is doing, and I know it’s only temporary. I know how to get out of that cycle and back into creativity mode.

But I remember how long it used to take me to get back in the zone 10 years ago. 

My top tip is to STOP the consuming cycle. There’s no point trying to create magic when you feel this way. Simply STOP consuming. Even if you just sit on the sofa bored, stepping away from the laptop, TV or smartphone is your first priority. Allow yourself some quiet time and see what comes up. 

You might feel drawn to tidy up the kitchen, play silly games with your pet or doodle on a scrap of paper. It really doesn’t matter what you do, the key is that you’re removing yourself from the consuming cycle. 

Spend a couple of days getting lots of sleep, eating healthy food and drinking lots of water. And allow your creativity mojo to slowly slip back into action. 

Before you know it you’ll have sparkly new ideas for 2022 and will enjoy creating things for your business with a renewed energy, focus and clarity.

I’d love to hear about your experiences of illness or injury.

Did you get similar lightbulb moments when you were stuck at home (or in hospital) away from your normal life? Did you feel a post-viral (post-injury) quantum leap? Do you feel as if you’ve jumped a whole timeline energetically? Are you a different person to who you were before illness or injury?

Pop your comments below or send me an email. I love to connect!

With love,

Lorraine xx

Ps. Please note this blog is written for entertainment and inspirational purposes only and is not intended to create debate about treatments for Covid or any related issues. All opinions are my own. 

A lesson in listening to your intuition

Sinking into your self.

Following your heart.

Listening to your intuition.

When was the last time you truly did something JUST for you?

Something unexpected, spontaneous and entirely driven by a desire to simply do that thing just because it’s what you felt in the moment?

I feel these desires all the time.

Sometimes they’re full on and noisy – you can’t miss them when the voice in your head is literally shouting: ‘Go to the beach’, ‘Read a book’, ‘Turn the music up loud and sing along’.

Other times they’re small, fun things that make me smile: kicking a pile of autumn leaves as high as I can, drawing a word or a shape in the sand, making a paper aeroplane, arranging fruit or vegetables in the kitchen into erotic shapes (oh come on, I know you’ve thought of that too!).

And then occasionally, like this morning as Storm Alex raged outside, my soul gently suggests that I stay in bed; to appreciate the warmth and cosiness of my surroundings.

While I appreciate not everyone has the choice to take a duvet day, what’s important here is the tuning into what your body, mind and soul truly need.

It might be that you’ve set yourself a goal of going to the gym four times a week after work, but tonight what you’d really love is to snuggle up on the sofa with a big furry throw and Love Actually.

It’s not about being lazy or avoiding adulting.

It’s about listening to your inner voice.

Because she really wants to be heard.

This morning, as I snuggled in bed, hugged by pillows and cushions, with the beautiful purring of Luna curled up alongside me, pressed against my leg, I was aware of the deliciousness of the moment. Of what seemed like indulgence but was in fact a pure example of tuning into your true self.

What followed, in the two hours I stayed warm and cosy, was a rush of creativity, a desire to look inwards and a few big realisations.

With yesterday being a full moon, I grabbed my copy of Moonology and began writing a forgiveness list, followed by a gratitude list.  This activity is all about letting go of negative energy that fills our cells and replacing it with lighter, higher vibration energy.

This exercise led me on to some more personal journalling and those beautiful breakthroughs that help us to see how far we’ve come.

Who knew you could get so much out of a duvet day?!

My little piece of wisdom for you today is this:

Tuning into your desires and listening to your inner voice is not a pretty, fluffy little add-on for  a better life. It’s a fundamental part of who you are and the amazing light you’re here to share with the world.

From this moment forward, make a promise to yourself that next time you feel drawn to do something that you know is coming from deep within, don’t shut it out with logical reasoning or step in with a fear-based excuse.

In the words of Nike – Just do it!

This blog forms part of my October series. Read the FIRST blog here: How to Surrender to the Flow and Ignite Your Inner Voice

Lorraine xx

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How to surrender to the flow and ignite your inner voice

Have you ever wondered why it’s so difficult to anchor your thoughts for long enough to turn them into words that connect with your reader? In this blog I’m sharing my recent experiences along with some tips to help you surrender to the flow of your intuition and ignite your inner voice, so that you finally write the book, create the online course or finish the sales page!

Do you ever get a flash of inspiration – the kind that swirls inside your head giving you a complete mental image of something you feel drawn to create instantly?

You know instinctively that all the information is there. The words, the images, the sounds, the smells, the feelings. And yet the minute you pick up your pen and paper to write it all down, it begins to float away…. just like dreams, smoke and clouds.

One minute your thoughts are as vivid as they can possibly be, and the next they’re transforming, swirling, disappearing.

This happens to me all the time.

My Gemini mind is like mercury – fast, fluid and ever changing. So my ability to hold onto those thoughts and ideas and channel them directly into a container every time is almost impossible.

Of course, not every idea or thought that ever pops into our minds needs to be acted upon. Far from it in fact.

But every now and then you’ll get that one thought that leaves you fizzing in every cell in your body. And just like meeting your soulmate, you know it’s the one.

So, what can you do to harness your effervescent energy and insatiable ideas once they jump into your mind with more bounce than Tigger?

Here’s what I’ve learnt over the past few months that might help you to feel more connected, aligned and ready to anchor those thoughts into tangible words so you can create the impact and ripple effect you desire.

First, feeling frustrated when you can’t get the words out onto paper isn’t helping. You need to take a step back and look at the situation from a new perspective.

There’s probably a lot going on in your life and in your head (if you’re anything like me!), so step one is to SURRENDER.

Allow yourself to fully let go of all the plates you’re spinning.

Some might smash and fall, but that’s ok.

They’re probably plates you didn’t need anyway.

Remember that you are a human being – not a human doing.

You are enough simply by showing up in the world as the fullest expression of your self.

Allowing yourself to let go of the noise around you is the next step in being able to create the space and calm you need to birth your creations into the world.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re the kind of person who needs to schedule in ‘quiet time for connection’ into your daily diary or whether you’re (like me) someone who just needs a few minutes’ space to breathe and pull an oracle card to feel centred and realigned.

Either way, creating stillness, calm and space around you, and within you, is an essential part of this process.

And I’ll be honest, as a classic multi-tasker with at least 30 tabs open in three different browsers at any one time (sorry Virgo readers, I know how much this pains you!), truly taking the time to create real stillness and space is something I jump in and out of way too fast. Which is probably why it’s taken me a longggggg time to get here!

But equally, those of us who have been on the most challenging of journeys have so much to share. If you’ve been struggling for years too, know that all of your experiences have shaped and moulded you into the beautiful person you are today – filled with so much to share with the world.

Once you’ve begun to create stillness and space, you’ll find it easier to allow those thoughts and ideas to flow through you and onto paper (or straight into your computer).

When it comes to writing, every writing coach will tell you that you need a daily writing practice.

And while committing to a daily practice will definitely help with focus and productivity, there’s also another part to the picture that’s really important…

Connection. Alignment. Remembering.

In my Write Effortless Copy Workbook I take the reader on a journey through the things that resonate most with them: what lights them up, what makes them feel energised, their talents, gifts and unique skills, their values, the people who inspire them, and so much more.

It’s a great exercise to repeat again and again a couple of times each year as it enables you to anchor in to what’s truly important in your world. This helps you to build on the connection you have with your inner self: your intuition, your inner voice, your gut instinct, your soul.

Living each day in alignment with these connections to your soul brings in its own kind of lightness, serenity and focus. Suddenly, all the things you didn’t think you’d have time to do seem possible after all. And doing those things creates a new buzz of energy that’s motivating and inspiring in itself.

The notion of remembering ties into the ancient wisdom that lies within many of us, particularly those who resonate with terms such as lightworker, Starseed, healer, psychic and empath. But it’s not all about far away galaxies or ancient lands of Lemuria or Atlantis, there’s also the wisdom we possessed as children; the innocence, playfulness and curiosity we were naturally gifted before adulting, pain and trauma got in the way.

Remembering is about tapping back into the true you inside; whether that’s your inner child, your early life experiences or a deep cellular memory of long-forgotten worlds.

Once you’re feeling aligned, sitting in the stillness, with mental space freeing up channels for connection and remembering, then those ideas and thoughts that flash into your mind in a nano-second will have a far greater chance of being released onto paper and out into the world where they can inspire, support and transform other people’s lives.

Never underestimate the power that lies within you.

You are capable of creating magical things without ever needing a schedule or a planner! All you need is what already exists inside.

The power of community, interaction and support from others will also play a vital role in your evolution and growth.

Need a little help? Say this affirmation out loud or write it down multiple times a day…

Every day I commit to a more conscious practice of connection, alignment, remembering, stillness, space and surrender.

With love

Lorraine xx

Ps. Need a smile? Go back and press the Tigger link! (You know you want to!)

Create a business that feels aligned to your heart and soul

NEW! Listen to the audio version of this blog here.

Having been a business owner since the late 1990s I can now look back and see the strategies and mindset shifts I had to put in place, and the action I had to take consistently, in order to feel like everything was aligned to my core values.

 And of course, it had to light me up every single day! 

There’s so much I could share about how I’ve ended up where I am today, but for now, I’m keeping it to some simple action steps and tips YOU can take to make sure you have your most successful, productive, abundant and happy year yet!

❤️ Listen to your gut. Sometimes in life, love and business, we make decisions that we feel aren’t quite right, but we can’t see another way so we take them anyway. If you get that feeling that something is a little ‘off’ or gives you a funny feeling in the pit of your stomach, hold off for a few days (or at least a few hours) before you take action. Always listen to your intuition – it’s usually right!

❤️ Don’t sell out to companies and products you don’t believe in. If you’re offered the chance to represent a brand or product but it really doesn’t sit well with you, then feel confident in saying ‘no’ and walking away – however much money it may be worth! Ditto goes for working with clients who really don’t fit your niche or those who will end up costing you lots of time, stress and grey hairs. It’s your company, you are free to choose who you work with and who you don’t.

❤️ Create a secure financial situation for yourself. Easier said than done for many of us, I know! If you’ve come out of a well paid job and have savings worth six to twelve months of your previous salary, then that’s a great place to start. However, if, like me, you started out as a small business charging clients on an hourly basis, then you may simply not have had the ability to save any decent amount, nor have high limits on credit cards. My top tip is to start saving at least 10% of your gross income (if your living costs enable you to save 20% to 30% that’s even better!) and put it into an account where you can’t access it easily. Once you feel financially secure and stable, you’re MORE LIKELY to take action that is aligned to your heart, soul and core values.

❤️ Take some time out to plan ahead with YOUR DREAMS and goals in mind. It’s easy to get swept up in financial planning or social media marketing strategies (both of which are needed too), but it’s also important to take time on a regular basis to look at whether your business is still headed in the way you wish, or whether changes need to be made. I made the biggest strides ahead in my business after I took two months off to tune back in to my feminine energy, spend time in nature and read, write and create things with no pressure to sell or promote my business.

I’d love to hear what lights you up, makes you feel ‘in tune’ with the Universe and what’s really important to you in your business.

Lorraine xx

When wisdom overtakes competition

Three young women in their early twenties with tiny sparkly black dresses, high heels and long lashes caked in mascara stand over the cloakroom sinks, reapplying their baby pink lip gloss in the mirror for at least the tenth time, scanning each other’s outward appearance for any sign of weakness to be exploited.

Her bum’s bigger than mine, I bet she doesn’t work out. My boobs look better than hers. Her hair is so long, she must have extensions. I’m gonna get that cute guy with the bright blue eyes before she does; he won’t fancy her anyway.

And so it continues, every Friday and Saturday night in bars and nightclubs around the country. Young women competing for men’s attention and tearing each other down in the process.

I remember those years. They were exhausting! No matter how much you noticed other women’s supposed flaws, you still never felt quite slim enough, pretty enough, sexy enough or on-trend-enough.

The whole thing was D R A I N I N G.

And we were totally missing the best part of our lives.

Youth. Natural beauty. Freedom.

Thankfully, there comes a time in most women’s lives when wisdom overtakes competition.

We begin to realise that lifting each other up is a far more pleasurable and peaceful way to live.

American actress Amy Adams once told Vanity Fair that she has no interest in competing with her female peers, and says: “I get excited for people when I know I should be competitive. I’d say in an audition, ‘I don’t think I’m right for this, but you know who you should get?’”

It’s this kind of support, trust and feminine energy that enables us all to feel more empowered and, ultimately, to achieve our individual goals.

Attending Rebecca Campbell’s Rise Sister Rise event in October 2016 changed the direction of my life and showed me the ONE thing I’d been searching for since my late teens…

Sisterhood.

That feeling of knowing other women have your back.

That other women can support you in your personal and business life.

That other women can pick up on subtle, intuitive signs and guide you on your journey of personal growth and development.

That other women will lift you up when you’re feeling down.

That other women have gifts similar to yours, yet we’re all unique. Embracing our differences and similarities is a beautiful thing.

And, of course, sisterhood is not a one way street. The more you support, uplift and empower other women, the better you feel.

Elevating other women benefits everyone.

If you’ve jumped from the real world into the online entrepreneurial space and suddenly feel like you’re back in your teens or twenties, competing to be the brightest star around, then I feel your pain. In a sea of digitally enhanced images and unfathomable job titles, it’s easy to feel lost, uneasy and not good enough.

But before you run off back to shore and wrap yourself in your favourite cosy towel, I invite you to take a deep breath, close your eyes and remember … 

Remember why you’re here.

Remember what you want to do.

Remember who you want to serve.

You are a woman. Powerful and strong. Your innate feminine wisdom, gut instinct and intuition is the key to unlocking your present and your future. When you’re tuned in to who you really are at a deep level, that’s when life feels aligned and everything flows with ease. You don’t feel stuck any more. You can aim high because you know you have the power to achieve your greatest dreams.

And with the support of your sisters around the world, this will truly be a magical journey (unicorns optional!).

Lorraine xx

Ready to shine brilliantly? Check out another quick read here.

https://www.bustle.com/articles/96890-7-female-celebrities-who-are-always-supportive-of-other-women