A lesson in listening to your intuition

Sinking into your self.

Following your heart.

Listening to your intuition.

When was the last time you truly did something JUST for you?

Something unexpected, spontaneous and entirely driven by a desire to simply do that thing just because it’s what you felt in the moment?

I feel these desires all the time.

Sometimes they’re full on and noisy – you can’t miss them when the voice in your head is literally shouting: ‘Go to the beach’, ‘Read a book’, ‘Turn the music up loud and sing along’.

Other times they’re small, fun things that make me smile: kicking a pile of autumn leaves as high as I can, drawing a word or a shape in the sand, making a paper aeroplane, arranging fruit or vegetables in the kitchen into erotic shapes (oh come on, I know you’ve thought of that too!).

And then occasionally, like this morning as Storm Alex raged outside, my soul gently suggests that I stay in bed; to appreciate the warmth and cosiness of my surroundings.

While I appreciate not everyone has the choice to take a duvet day, what’s important here is the tuning into what your body, mind and soul truly need.

It might be that you’ve set yourself a goal of going to the gym four times a week after work, but tonight what you’d really love is to snuggle up on the sofa with a big furry throw and Love Actually.

It’s not about being lazy or avoiding adulting.

It’s about listening to your inner voice.

Because she really wants to be heard.

This morning, as I snuggled in bed, hugged by pillows and cushions, with the beautiful purring of Luna curled up alongside me, pressed against my leg, I was aware of the deliciousness of the moment. Of what seemed like indulgence but was in fact a pure example of tuning into your true self.

What followed, in the two hours I stayed warm and cosy, was a rush of creativity, a desire to look inwards and a few big realisations.

With yesterday being a full moon, I grabbed my copy of Moonology and began writing a forgiveness list, followed by a gratitude list.  This activity is all about letting go of negative energy that fills our cells and replacing it with lighter, higher vibration energy.

This exercise led me on to some more personal journalling and those beautiful breakthroughs that help us to see how far we’ve come.

Who knew you could get so much out of a duvet day?!

My little piece of wisdom for you today is this:

Tuning into your desires and listening to your inner voice is not a pretty, fluffy little add-on for  a better life. It’s a fundamental part of who you are and the amazing light you’re here to share with the world.

From this moment forward, make a promise to yourself that next time you feel drawn to do something that you know is coming from deep within, don’t shut it out with logical reasoning or step in with a fear-based excuse.

In the words of Nike – Just do it!

This blog forms part of my October series. Read the FIRST blog here: How to Surrender to the Flow and Ignite Your Inner Voice

Lorraine xx

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How to surrender to the flow and ignite your inner voice

Have you ever wondered why it’s so difficult to anchor your thoughts for long enough to turn them into words that connect with your reader? In this blog I’m sharing my recent experiences along with some tips to help you surrender to the flow of your intuition and ignite your inner voice, so that you finally write the book, create the online course or finish the sales page!

Do you ever get a flash of inspiration – the kind that swirls inside your head giving you a complete mental image of something you feel drawn to create instantly?

You know instinctively that all the information is there. The words, the images, the sounds, the smells, the feelings. And yet the minute you pick up your pen and paper to write it all down, it begins to float away…. just like dreams, smoke and clouds.

One minute your thoughts are as vivid as they can possibly be, and the next they’re transforming, swirling, disappearing.

This happens to me all the time.

My Gemini mind is like mercury – fast, fluid and ever changing. So my ability to hold onto those thoughts and ideas and channel them directly into a container every time is almost impossible.

Of course, not every idea or thought that ever pops into our minds needs to be acted upon. Far from it in fact.

But every now and then you’ll get that one thought that leaves you fizzing in every cell in your body. And just like meeting your soulmate, you know it’s the one.

So, what can you do to harness your effervescent energy and insatiable ideas once they jump into your mind with more bounce than Tigger?

Here’s what I’ve learnt over the past few months that might help you to feel more connected, aligned and ready to anchor those thoughts into tangible words so you can create the impact and ripple effect you desire.

First, feeling frustrated when you can’t get the words out onto paper isn’t helping. You need to take a step back and look at the situation from a new perspective.

There’s probably a lot going on in your life and in your head (if you’re anything like me!), so step one is to SURRENDER.

Allow yourself to fully let go of all the plates you’re spinning.

Some might smash and fall, but that’s ok.

They’re probably plates you didn’t need anyway.

Remember that you are a human being – not a human doing.

You are enough simply by showing up in the world as the fullest expression of your self.

Allowing yourself to let go of the noise around you is the next step in being able to create the space and calm you need to birth your creations into the world.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re the kind of person who needs to schedule in ‘quiet time for connection’ into your daily diary or whether you’re (like me) someone who just needs a few minutes’ space to breathe and pull an oracle card to feel centred and realigned.

Either way, creating stillness, calm and space around you, and within you, is an essential part of this process.

And I’ll be honest, as a classic multi-tasker with at least 30 tabs open in three different browsers at any one time (sorry Virgo readers, I know how much this pains you!), truly taking the time to create real stillness and space is something I jump in and out of way too fast. Which is probably why it’s taken me a longggggg time to get here!

But equally, those of us who have been on the most challenging of journeys have so much to share. If you’ve been struggling for years too, know that all of your experiences have shaped and moulded you into the beautiful person you are today – filled with so much to share with the world.

Once you’ve begun to create stillness and space, you’ll find it easier to allow those thoughts and ideas to flow through you and onto paper (or straight into your computer).

When it comes to writing, every writing coach will tell you that you need a daily writing practice.

And while committing to a daily practice will definitely help with focus and productivity, there’s also another part to the picture that’s really important…

Connection. Alignment. Remembering.

In my Write Effortless Copy Workbook I take the reader on a journey through the things that resonate most with them: what lights them up, what makes them feel energised, their talents, gifts and unique skills, their values, the people who inspire them, and so much more.

It’s a great exercise to repeat again and again a couple of times each year as it enables you to anchor in to what’s truly important in your world. This helps you to build on the connection you have with your inner self: your intuition, your inner voice, your gut instinct, your soul.

Living each day in alignment with these connections to your soul brings in its own kind of lightness, serenity and focus. Suddenly, all the things you didn’t think you’d have time to do seem possible after all. And doing those things creates a new buzz of energy that’s motivating and inspiring in itself.

The notion of remembering ties into the ancient wisdom that lies within many of us, particularly those who resonate with terms such as lightworker, Starseed, healer, psychic and empath. But it’s not all about far away galaxies or ancient lands of Lemuria or Atlantis, there’s also the wisdom we possessed as children; the innocence, playfulness and curiosity we were naturally gifted before adulting, pain and trauma got in the way.

Remembering is about tapping back into the true you inside; whether that’s your inner child, your early life experiences or a deep cellular memory of long-forgotten worlds.

Once you’re feeling aligned, sitting in the stillness, with mental space freeing up channels for connection and remembering, then those ideas and thoughts that flash into your mind in a nano-second will have a far greater chance of being released onto paper and out into the world where they can inspire, support and transform other people’s lives.

Never underestimate the power that lies within you.

You are capable of creating magical things without ever needing a schedule or a planner! All you need is what already exists inside.

The power of community, interaction and support from others will also play a vital role in your evolution and growth.

So with that in mind, I thought that 1 October was the perfect moment to build on the momentum of this blog, and the energy many of us in the northern hemisphere are feeling as we tip into autumn. The nights are drawing in, the leaves are turning golden and the desire to retreat inwards feels stronger than ever.

For the month of October I’m committing to a more conscious practice of connection, alignment, remembering, stillness, space and surrender.

And I’d love to share this journey with you in a way that inspires you to peel back your own layers and share more of your brilliant sparkle with the world.

While I can’t commit to writing a blog a day, I am going to be sharing something across Instagram and Facebook (maybe with a splattering of Twitter and LinkedIn thrown in for good measure) EVERY day throughout October.

And I’d LOVE you to join me.

(Click any of the links above, follow me and ensure notifications are switched on.)

I’ll be sharing ways to connect, align, surrender, create space and tap into our ancient wisdom. I’ll also be sharing bits of my own writing and encouraging you to do the same. 

Here’s to using the things we learn about ourselves this month to finally bring our incredible dreams and fantastic ideas into reality so that together we raise the vibration of the planet.

Are you with me?

Lorraine xx

Do you want to create a business that feels aligned to your heart and soul?

NEW! Listen to the audio version of this blog here.

Having been a business owner since the late 1990s I can now look back and see the strategies and mindset shifts I had to put in place, and the action I had to take consistently, in order to feel like everything was aligned to my core values.

 And of course, it had to light me up every single day! 

There’s so much I will share about how I’ve ended up where I am today, but for now, I’m keeping it to some simple action steps and tips YOU can take over January to make sure you have your most successful, productive, abundant and happy year yet!

❤️ Listen to your gut. Sometimes in life, love and business, we make decisions that we feel aren’t quite right, but we can’t see another way so we take them anyway. If you get that feeling that something is a little ‘off’ or gives you a funny feeling in the pit of your stomach, hold off for a few days (or at least a few hours) before you take action. Always listen to your intuition – it’s usually right!

❤️ Don’t sell out to companies and products you don’t believe in. If you’re offered the chance to represent a brand or product but it really doesn’t sit well with you, then feel confident in saying ‘no’ and walking away – however much money it may be worth! Ditto goes for working with clients who really don’t fit your niche or those who will end up costing you lots of time, stress and grey hairs. It’s your company, you are free to choose who you work with and who you don’t.

❤️ Create a secure financial situation for yourself. Easier said than done for many of us, I know! If you’ve come out of a well paid job and have savings worth six to twelve months of your previous salary, then that’s a great place to start. However, if, like me, you started out as a small business charging clients on an hourly basis, then you may simply not have had the ability to save any decent amount, nor have high limits on credit cards. My top tip is to start saving at least 10% of your gross income (if your living costs enable you to save 20% to 30% that’s even better!) and put it into an account where you can’t access it easily. Once you feel financially secure and stable, you’re MORE LIKELY to take action that is aligned to your heart, soul and core values.

❤️ Take some time out to plan ahead with YOUR DREAMS and goals in mind. It’s easy to get swept up in financial planning or social media marketing strategies (both of which are needed too), but it’s also important to take time on a regular basis to look at whether your business is still headed in the way you wish, or whether changes need to be made. I made the biggest strides ahead in my business after I took two months off to tune back in to my feminine energy, spend time in nature and read, write and create things with no pressure to sell or promote my business.

I’d love to hear how you’re taking time this week to focus on what’s really important to you and your business throughout 2019 and on into 2020.

Lorraine xx

When wisdom overtakes competition

Three young women in their early twenties with tiny sparkly black dresses, high heels and long lashes caked in mascara stand over the cloakroom sinks, reapplying their baby pink lip gloss in the mirror for at least the tenth time, scanning each other’s outward appearance for any sign of weakness to be exploited.

Her bum’s bigger than mine, I bet she doesn’t work out. My boobs look better than hers. Her hair is so long, she must have extensions. I’m gonna get that cute guy with the bright blue eyes before she does; he won’t fancy her anyway.

And so it continues, every Friday and Saturday night in bars and nightclubs around the country. Young women competing for men’s attention and tearing each other down in the process.

I remember those years. They were exhausting! No matter how much you noticed other women’s supposed flaws, you still never felt quite slim enough, pretty enough, sexy enough or on-trend-enough.

The whole thing was D R A I N I N G.

And we were totally missing the best part of our lives.

Youth. Natural beauty. Freedom.

Thankfully, there comes a time in most women’s lives when wisdom overtakes competition.

We begin to realise that lifting each other up is a far more pleasurable and peaceful way to live.

American actress Amy Adams once told Vanity Fair that she has no interest in competing with her female peers, and says: “I get excited for people when I know I should be competitive. I’d say in an audition, ‘I don’t think I’m right for this, but you know who you should get?’”

It’s this kind of support, trust and feminine energy that enables us all to feel more empowered and, ultimately, to achieve our individual goals.

Attending Rebecca Campbell’s Rise Sister Rise event in October 2016 changed the direction of my life and showed me the ONE thing I’d been searching for since my late teens…

Sisterhood.

That feeling of knowing other women have your back.

That other women can support you in your personal and business life.

That other women can pick up on subtle, intuitive signs and guide you on your journey of personal growth and development.

That other women will lift you up when you’re feeling down.

That other women have gifts similar to yours, yet we’re all unique. Embracing our differences and similarities is a beautiful thing.

And, of course, sisterhood is not a one way street. The more you support, uplift and empower other women, the better you feel.

Elevating other women benefits everyone.

If you’ve jumped from the real world into the online entrepreneurial space and suddenly feel like you’re back in your teens or twenties, competing to be the brightest star around, then I feel your pain. In a sea of digitally enhanced images and unfathomable job titles, it’s easy to feel lost, uneasy and not good enough.

But before you run off back to shore and wrap yourself in your favourite cosy towel, I invite you to take a deep breath, close your eyes and remember … 

Remember why you’re here.

Remember what you want to do.

Remember who you want to serve.

You are a woman. Powerful and strong. Your innate feminine wisdom, gut instinct and intuition is the key to unlocking your present and your future. When you’re tuned in to who you really are at a deep level, that’s when life feels aligned and everything flows with ease. You don’t feel stuck any more. You can aim high because you know you have the power to achieve your greatest dreams.

And with the support of your sisters around the world, this will truly be a magical journey (unicorns optional!).

Lorraine xx

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